Dear Departed Drawings ~ Joel 6

Adding more shading to Joels arm and face.  Spent an hour and 15 minutes working.  Sharing a photo today of Joel and his wife Karen.  We have had the pleasure of getting to know her and remain friends with her after Joels depart.  Any time we are in town or vice versa, we make plans. Our children get to play together while we catch up during visits.  She is a lovely person and mother, we know how much Joel adored her and she him.  

Dear Departed Drawings ~ Joel 5

Today I filled in a bit more of Joels face, adding shadows.  I worked for about 45 minutes.  I remember the last time I saw him.  It was Mothers day weekend 2014, our tie dye business had been invited to vend our tie dyes at a small music festival by a stranger who found us online.  The event did not have a big turnout and we broke even for the cost and time spent.  The festival location was three hours north and not far from where my husband grew up.  We had made plans with Joel to meet up and he had some hand me down clothes for our girls.  I will not forget seeing his smiling face, receiving a giant hug and the bit of catching up we were able to do with him.  We saw him on Mothers day Sunday and left our earth the following Monday.  One would think we were never meant to make a business profit, but rather we were intended to see our friend for one last time.

Dear Departed Drawings ~ Joel 4

An hour of drawing time as I continue to lay down the first layer.  I don't have any awesome stories today, my mind is currently overwhelmed with all the new information I am learning at RichMomBusiness.com.  She is totally free with TONS of free training THAT WORKS for homemade businesses.  I signed up for her email list and have been taking all her trainings in and she is for real.  I was able to take all the information I have gathered for the past 10 years and she surpassed it and elaborated on it, her trainings are so valuable.  So I have been spending time making my new Etsy shop ready to open this year, sewing, making batik, dyeing and creating an experience for my customers.  See you tomorrow!

Dear Departed Drawings ~ Joel 3

Already coming through so nicely.  Still just outlines.  I was only afforded 30 minutes today of draw time, but its progress!  I love the expression on their faces, happiness and joy.  I hope this portrait brings his wife and daughter much joy and happiness.  The last two years have been so hard for his family.  I have always loved this photo of Kendalynn and Joel, looking forward to bringing them to life on paper.

I remember taking this photo.  We were driving along, looking for the big marker, damaged trees. We wanted photos of the beautiful cross his friends and family stood among the trees in Joels honor, my husband wanted a photo with his cross.  We had driven a ways down the road and stopped near a house, looking, they called out to us and us to them.  They knew what we were looking for.  "Down the road, under the only dark spot among the trees" they told us.  We drove on wondering how we would find it among so many trees shading the road, then it appeared.  Truly the only dark, shadowy part of the trees on the road.  Dark indeed, a chill in the air with sadness lingering there as I snapped photos.  The world lost a kind, gentle, compassionate, loving soul that day.

Dear Departed Drawings ~ Joel 2

I spent an hour and a half today, finishing lining out the paper, straightening my transparency grid.  I saged myself and my space I lit incense and meditated with my Lemurian quartz before starting.  Just a simple outline and rudimentary shadows.  Just the beginning.  We must start somewhere. Let it be here.

Today I get back on track with drawings.  My word for 2015 was Balance.  At times I was tipping the scales trying to juggle my first attempt at homeschool preschool, working my handmade business, drawing the departed, being a housewife and a mother.  And time for myself.  While 2015 was successful most of the time finding balance, I realized I needed a better plan for 2016 to make sure everything was getting done regularly and as efficiently as possible.  My word for 2016 is Ritual.  I have been using a website called FlyLady.net that my mother in law pointed me towards years ago.  I am finally making use of said website.

2016 brings several new adventures for me.  Getting back on track with drawings is a priority as well as launching my new shop on Etsy Sacred Batik and Dye.  I also am buckling down and sticking with Trim Healthy Mama to drop off my excess weight (the plan works!  I lost 30 lbs last year) and stay healthy, also restarting my morning aerobic workouts.  I am feeling confident with my homeschool preschool and will be tweaking it so I can work with my daughter AND work on my handmade business at the same time.  Using Fly Ladys routines I created my own rituals down to the minutes to clean, eat, shower, exercise, homeschool, draw, and take me time - to name a few things.  It starts tomorrow.  I am all in.  Do or do not, there is no try.

Dear Departed Drawings ~ Joel 1

Today is the first day of an incredibly missed husband, father, son, friend.  I remember the first time I met him.  His height seems intimidating but his smile is warm and friendly.  His handshake is giant but gentle.  Very compassionate and caring, always loving and I always felt safe with Joel.  I had always secretly hoped he would find a good woman to start a family alongside.

This year will be two years he is gone from our earth.  Gone too soon for many of us.  It's been a difficult time for his family, a loss so overwhelming for his daughter and wife.  His mother missing him so much.  His father joined him last year, another loss so profound for the family.  I had planned on drawing Conner or my aunt and uncle next.  But I had a specific request from Joel himself as he delivered a message through an acquaintance asking to be next.  My neighbor had a dream that Joel was hugging a little boy, described as Conner.  So Joel is to be next, I never thought I would be drawing him.  I thought we had more time, the last time we saw him.  Starting off the New Year with my husbands childhood friend, who is missed. Joel.

Dear Departed Drawings ~ Trees and Tents with Alice

Today is the first day of 2016.  Alice is complete.  There is no love like the love of a pet. The constant unconditional love they give us.  The memory never fades away.  I know Vayda misses her beloved companion so much.  We never forget them.  They are our protectors, our listening ear, our comfort in sadness, our calm, always loving us.  Nobody can replace that kind of love.  She is missed.

2015 for me was full of questions and I went to the deepest depths of my soul to find answers. Because I spent so much time this year seeking "why" I do things the way I do, feel a certain way....or simply - why are things the way they are, I only completed one portrait this year.  It was a very emotional year.

I am ready to move forward into 2016.   I have made peace with a lot of my childhood and my expectations of how people and experiences in my life should be.  Things ARE exactly as they should be for me.  I have finally accepted and come face to face with my guilt,  loneliness, anger, things I simply have no control over and accepted the things that are every piece of me.

Time to roll with it, walk this path laid out just for me and let my light shine.   I found people that I can feel "normal" around, safe, and be myself.  I have found that when we heal parts of ourselves we can finally see that tribe of people like us that we have been looking for our whole lives, ready to welcome us with open arms, who love us for who we are through and through.  Healing ones self is a long journey.  I realize some lessons are necessary and even protect us from a worse fate.  I am grateful for every lesson, even those that cut deep into my heart.  For they have made me stronger, more loving, more confident and prepared for what lies ahead.  I find myself leaping into the new year and new experiences.  I am still missing our loved ones and dear departed drawings are very much going to be a part of 2016.  One love.  

Let your love light shine

The beginning of Alice Day one